Why Do I Feel Guilty Setting Boundaries With My Parents?

Many adults feel intense guilt when setting boundaries with family.

Even when those boundaries are healthy.

Why?

Because in many families, boundaries were never modeled or respected.

You may have learned that saying no means:

  • being selfish
  • hurting someone
  • causing conflict
  • disappointing others

So even healthy boundaries feel wrong.

But guilt doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong.

Sometimes guilt simply means you’re doing something new.

Therapy can help you set boundaries with more confidence and less guilt.

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